What is a Dominatrix?

She is in many ways the same as any other woman. She loves, laughs, grieves, wonders, thinks and plays like any other woman. But her mind is different. The Dominatrix is richly creative. She is artistic and intelligent. All of her actions emanate from her deep interior. She can and does become the commanding presence that some men, in the secrecy of their minds, are afraid of, and that other men are attracted to. The Domme revels in this power. She can easily command them to obey her. It is her natural ability as dominant woman. But the true Domme does not misuse her power. She is in control of herself as well as the men at her feet.

The Domme is a psychologist. She studies the mind and emotions of her submissive or slave before she physically interacts with them. She seeks to understand the deep, often hidden fantasies and fetishes of the submissive, then create scenarios which fulfill their deepest desires. Thus she satisfies not only the submissive, but attains deep satisfaction and fulfillment herself.

She is also compassionate. The men who come to her may feel shame or guilt about their secret desires. Few people can understand the motivations of such men. If the submissive man were to disclose his secrets he would be roundly judged, perhaps labeled “crazy”. But the Domme does not judge. On the contrary, she accepts and approves and encourages the sub to explore themselves with her, to go deeper, and to finally accept who they are.  They may discover more about themselves than they ever dreamed possible. In this way she helps the submissive to mend the split inside themselves, to become whole. The Domme is healer.

The professional Dominatrix earns money, but money is the least of her motivations. Much more important is how well she studies and understands the submissive, and how satisfying and fulfilling the session is for the submissive and herself.  The money she earns is a byproduct of what she most deeply enjoys, what she is born to do. It is not unusual for a happy and fulfilled submissive to offer more money than she requests, but she has the ethics of a true professional. She may accept a small gift, but she won’t accept more than the previously agreed fee. Her professionalism is paramount.

Psychologist, artist, professional, wise woman, healer; she is all of these as well as an ordinary person. This is the true Dominatrix.